“We live in such uncertain times” said the elderly lady sitting beside me, seeming very say as she flipped through the daily newspaper.
“We live in such uncertain times” said the elderly lady sitting beside me, seeming very say as she flipped through the daily newspaper. We continued to speak and I found that she, along with a lot of people whom I speak to these days, have a very cautious and pessimistic approach towards the world as well as their own life. And to be frank, I don’t blame them. Every day, terrible & depressing news seems to Trump all the good that is going on around us. But I firmly believe that just like an entire ocean can not sink a ship unless the water gets inside it, similarly the negativity of the world cannot and must not pull you down unless you allow it to get inside you.
Which is why, one of the very first things I started to work on many years ago with my own personal development was to improve my outlook on life. I found that having a negative attitude did not help anybody and especially not me. It created a lot of unnecessary stress and tension within me which then percolated into my work, my relationships and even my health. However, once I realized that my happiness depended on the quality of my thoughts, I began to train my mind to choose these thoughts wisely and to only keep the ones that served me and the people around me. And the results have been life-changing. Not only do I feel more happy, confident and motivated, but I now help people around me learn how to feel the same, through my workshops, seminars and through articles like this.
So, I’d love to share my top 3 tips on how to create a more positive mindset in your life.
- Have an attitude of Gratitude. One of the simplest tricks that has helped me shift my focus away from negativity and frustration is to list the things in my life for which I am truly grateful. It could anything, from being grateful for your family and your health to feeling gratitude for the birds and the trees around you, practicing gratefulness immediately helps to shift your perspective. Exercise: Keep a journal and every night, simply write down three things that you were grateful for on that day. You will be astonished to find how easily this exercise puts you in a positive state of mind.
- Watch Your Posture. Physiology influences psychology. The mind and the body have an inherent association and are able to influence one and other. So the next time you feel sad, anxious or any other negative emotion, notice your posture. You will probably find that your shoulders and drooping, your face is frowning and your head has dropped along with other physical cues that our body picks up from a negative mindset. This is because our posture is probably the most unconscious expression of ourselves.
Exercise: If you do find yourself in this position, do this- stand up immediately, roll your shoulders back, tilt your chin up, stretch your arms out wide and smile. Hold this posture for a whole minute. Based on numerous studies (as well as my own experience for every time I do this) you will find a rush of energy and positivity, not just in your body, but also in your thoughts
- Ditch the Energy Sappers. It’s hard to maintain a positive perspective if you are constantly pulled down by the negativity of the people, the conditions and the influences around you. So if you find that your energy in being influenced by a certain friend or a certain habit, it may be time to distance yourself from both. Surround yourself with people who feel good about themselves, who lift you up and encourage your dreams and you will find that a positive state of mind can be as infectious as a negative one.
Exercise: Write down a list of your habits that do not serve you. Now replace them with something a list of things that do. Maybe it’s smoking. How would your life change if you replaced it with exercise? Then, actually make the shift!
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”